Language is awesome, but it can also lead to loads of confusion. That’s why it’s important to take the opportunity to have conversations with our children and guide their understanding of some of life’s biggest mysteries — such as what love is and what it isn’t, or explaining the awareness or existence of love. In doing so, we may just make some discoveries about the power of love for ourselves, especially if you want to love someone you don’t know, agree with, or who has hurt you.
Can We Love Someone We Don’t Know?
The short answer is, yes. We can love someone we don’t know when we begin relating to one another as part of a human family.
Talk to your children about immediate family members, including parents, grandparents, siblings, cousins, aunts, and uncles. Explain how these family members extend to their communities, friends, teachers, coaches, and to a greater global family that includes our sisters and brothers around the world.
By doing this, we begin raising children who feel and have an awareness of their connection to the world and to one another. They are able to become champions for equality and cooperation, versus divisiveness and competition. I’m not condemning healthy competition, but competition sometimes leads to greed, corruption, and suppression.
Share with children that there is a light inside each and every one of us, and that light is always shining like the sun. It’s this love in our heart that connects all of us, and when we know we are connected, we can love one another — even if we have never met.
Can We Love Someone We Don’t Agree With?
This is a hot topic today as political messages are pervading our lives and our children’s lives. People will often have different beliefs and ideas than we do. We do not need to agree with or condone someone’s actions or beliefs in order to love them.
Love is the truth and core of who we are. We are all playing along in this game called life, but if we begin nurturing and developing the love children need as they come into this world instead of clouding, dismissing, and burying it, perhaps they will rise up and lead with love.
Said another way, love transcends race, religion, politics, social, and economic status. It unites all of us! Let’s help our children remember and live the truth of who they are with love.
Can We Love Someone Who Has Hurt Us?
As mentioned above, we don’t need to condone or accept someone’s behavior if it hurts us emotionally or physically. Yet, there is power in forgiveness — surprisingly not as much for the person we are forgiving, but for those of us in need of letting something go.
Teach your children that we do not need to like someone in order to love them. The spark in everyone’s heart, even in the people who hurt us, is made of love. It can be buried beneath fear, hate, distrust, or anger. It can seem to dim or even fade out, but the truth is it is there in each and every one of us.
If we can be the one person who remembers that everyone has this spark of love, we can help make the world a better and brighter place for everyone.
Teaching Love Lessons with Books
My latest book, No Matter What, I Love You – You Are My Sister, You Are My Brother, shares messages of unconditional love, kindness, and acceptance, encouraging children and adults alike to come together amid a world of uncertainty and political divisiveness.
The book project, now part of an Indiegogo campaign to support upfront publishing costs, is slated for release in early 2021 and aims to inspire children of all ages in family or school settings. You can also visit my website to learn more about my work and latest projects.
Join me by becoming a fellow “Ambassador of Love.” The world needs us, and our children deserve to know how truly loved they are — not only by their immediate family members, but by their extended global family and life itself.
About the Author
Laura Duksta is an Ambassador of Love, inspirational speaker and New York Times bestselling children’s author. Her first book, l Love You More, has sold nearly a million copies in seven languages.