4. These Kids Have a Clear Sense of Self
Writing for Psychology Today, Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. said, “Providing tangible and emotional support helps people feel that they are part of the lives of their children by making them feel they ‘matter.’”
Helicopter moms and dads were noted for listening to their kids and providing them with opportunities to be a part of the decisions that impact their lives. Rebellion builds a person. Helicopter parents can create friction when they continue to stay involved in a way that hampers a child’s growing autonomy. But by establishing a partnership early, Helicopter parents can continue to be an influence as young adults begin to make their own way.
QUICK TIP: Parents start out as problem solvers. They can continue to provide valuable and necessary council if they know when to pick their battles. Every hill is not the hill to die on. Children that see healthy communication modeled by a parent will inevitably develop that skill themselves. As we say in my house, “You have a voice, you don’t always get a vote.”
5. These Kids Have Higher Life Satisfaction
Karen Fingerman’s research shows that kids of helicopter parents tend to grow up to be adults that complain less and have higher satisfaction with life. How? Because they had support and involvement as children. Parents lead by example. Building strong relationships and having mentors — even if they are your parents — make for happier people.
QUICK TIP: Our kids are not extensions of us. Their success is not ours. They are not our property. By providing the support and life skills needed to succeed, the child develops the self-confidence to go their own way. Let them fail, brush them off and empower them to try again, then cheer from the sidelines.