Sleepovers are one of the best parts of being a kid. You get to stay up all night with your friends, eat junk food, tell secrets, pummel each other with pillows… unless you go to Ms. [Redacted]’s house. One mom’s “sleepover contract” has gone viral for its strict rules and punishments for overnight guests — and all of her 10-year-old kid’s friends had to sign it before staying the night.
The contract was first posted on Instagram by the mother who wrote it. It has now made the rounds on Reddit, Imgur, and other viral content websites, and the mother’s name has since been redacted for privacy. The contract has specific rules for four main offenses: physical contact, changing clothes, excessive noise, and complaining. The punishments? “Suspension of privileges,” no more sleepovers and — the worst part — no breakfast.
Need more details? Here’s the breakdown.
1. No touching or tickling.
This mom is firmly anti-roughhousing. If you make any physical contact with another kid at the sleepover, you will be immediately separated, possibly until pickup time. “We keep our hands to ourselves,” Ms. [Redacted] reminds guests.
2. No nudity.
In this house, everyone changes in private. If you need to get into your pajamas, you must do so without anyone else in the room. No exceptions.
3. No disruptions.
Ms. [Redacted] reminds guests that excess volume of voice or electronics will result in “suspension of such privileges.” Does that mean no talking? You’ll have to find out.
4. No complaining.
Though complaining “will not be tolerated,” “constructive requests” in a calm, polite tone of voice are encouraged. And no interrupting. You must have Ms. [Redacted]’s full attention before voicing a concern.
The contract ends, “I have read and understand the rules and conditions of having a play date at Ms. [Redacted]’s house and I agree to show respect at all times. If my behavior reaches and maintains Ms. [Redacted]’s standards then a fun time will be had and brunch will occur together the following day.”
And if the standards are not met? “Future playdates or sleepovers might not occur again without serious consideration and stipulation.” That’s if a 10-year-old even knows what “stipulation” means.
Ms. [Redacted] adds a section at the end for kids to sign and date, claiming the contract is necessary to “best preserve” her “calm demeanor and peace of mind.”
See below for the original contract, from Ms [Redacted]’s Instagram story.
While some parents agree with this mom’s standards for respect, much of the internet has been critical of her formal tone and strict punishments for normal childhood behavior. For most kids, sleepovers are a time to explore and have fun: roughhousing, watching movies, playing video games, and yes, whining to the friend’s mom when they get hurt or hungry. Even changing clothes with close friends can be an important way for kids to get comfortable with their own bodies in a safe setting.
The sleepover contract was shared on Reddit’s “Insane Parenting” forum, quickly gaining replies from other parents. One replied, “This lady’s kids are going to have NO friends.”