Teenage angst can only go on for so long. For many parents, it’s difficult to figure out whether your teen’s behavior is due to something much more serious and long-term — like depression. Recognizing signs of depression in teens can be hard, but they may be more noticeable than you think.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, around 2.3 million US teens aged 12 to 17 had at least one major depressive episode in 2017. Of that number, only 19.6% received professional help. This doesn’t mean you should try to self-diagnose your teen as depressed, but to be mindful and look out for the signs. Understanding what these signs may look like, and seeking out the reasons behind teenage depression can enable you to help them even further.
Here are the top signs according to experts.
1. Drop in School Performance
If your teen is usually the type to excel in academics and is suddenly getting several letter grades below their usual, getting calls home, and so on, it’s time for a conversation. A sudden drop in school performance can be one of the many signs of depression in teens.
Depression can generate apathy for teens, causing them to lose interest in aspects of their daily routine, including school. However, do be wary of other possible causes behind the drop in school performance, like an undiagnosed learning disability or a bullying issue at school. Or, school itself can be the cause of teen depression.
Possible Cause: School Stress
As your child gets older, the likelihood of them facing stress from school increases. It may not even be coming from the expectations you place on them, but the expectations they place on themselves, comparisons to their peers, and their focus on success.
Teens can often tie their idea of self-worth to their academic performance, so when they do catch themselves performing poorly, they feel bad about themselves. Even if they are excelling academically, their focus on grades can be a great contributing factor to anxiety and depression.
2. Withdrawing from Activities or Hobbies
Extracurriculars and hobbies — sports, dance, volunteer groups — can take up a large chunk of a teen’s daily routine. If your teen has time commitments for activities they normally enjoy, but they begin to ignore or miss attending them, it can be a sign of depression. Try reaching out to see why they no longer want to participate, whether it be because they want to try something new or that they are suffering from depression.
What could cause them to drop from an activity or hobby that brings them joy?
Possible Cause: Bullying
When you send your teen out to play a team sport or join the school dance team, it’s a great way of giving them independence. However, you may be unaware of how they are treated by others, both offline and online. Your teen could be on the receiving end of bullying.
Being bullied can make a teen scared to participate in an extracurricular or their hobbies, especially if their ties to their hobbies is the reason they are getting bullied. Bullying can impact multiple areas of your teen’s life.
Don’t worry, there’s hope. Check out how you can help your teen if you suspect that they are being bullied.
Helping Your Bullied Teen
If your teen has already told you they are being bullied, take immediate action. Get involved where you can, contact school officials (teachers and administrators) and get issues resolved. Depending on how serious it may be, you may need administrative action to get the issue resolved for your teen.
If your teen is less open about their struggles, make sure your teen knows that they can always come up to you for help with their struggles — don’t corner them into confessing.
3. Significant Weight Gain or Loss
When a teen is depressed, they may take to extreme eating habits as a way of coping. This can be eating an excessive amount of food or just not eating at all. Rather than jump to conclusions or make it an issue about weight, approach them gently about the change — it may be linked to depression or an eating disorder.
Your teen showing a sudden weight gain or loss can also signal the reasons behind their mental health issues associated with depression and eating disorders. There are signs you can look for if you have suspicions of an eating disorder.