While Valentine’s day focuses on romantic relationships between people, the day encompasses more than that. Spotlighting the care and affection you have for your other loved ones is important, too. This Valentine’s day Parentology is highlighting ways to show your entire family love.
Highlight the Little Things

Grand gestures aren’t the only way to express affection. Showing your appreciation for little things has just as much impact. Ample opportunities present themselves for congratulating loved ones: a passed driver’s test, improved grades, a promotion at work… Call attention to and celebrate these victories.
Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychologists, Dr. D’Arcy Lyness shared recommendations for how to do this for children in a KidsHealth article. Per Lyness, avoid focusing praise only on results or fixed qualities, like winning an athletic match-up or getting an A on a test. Praise children for their progress and improved performance to boost in self-esteem over ego. Also, say thank you. Expressing your gratitude for their efforts gives kids the gift of confidence.
“Self-esteem grows when kids get to see that what they do matters to others,” Lyness said. “Kids can help out at home, do a service project at school, or do a favor for a sibling.”
And yes, the same applies to adults, too.
Spend Time Together

With our packed schedules, making room to spend time together often gets put off. Time can be one of the most precious gifts to give to family members, be it an aunt, sibling, grandparent, child or spouse.
Build this habit with family members in your household by designating hit the dinner hour as family time. The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA) found that sharing meals with your family is incredibly important.
“Compared to teens who had infrequent family dinners…teens who had frequent family dinners were almost 1.5 times likelier to have said they had an excellent relationship with their mother,” CASA reports, “and 1.5 times likelier to have said they had an excellent relationship with their father.”
If dinner is impossible, plan for breakfast or a time bedtime check-in. Use the time to talk about the day’s highs and lows and tomorrow’s plans.
On weekends, or when you have time, find new ways of spending quality time. Skip your normal routine and take lunch to the park and have a picnic, go bike-riding in the neighborhood, play a board-game, or try a new dessert place. Being spontaneous can help freshen up your family dynamic.
As for extended family members, make time to show up. Attend dance recitals, mow grass for an elder, chat over a cup of tea. You’ll reap as many rewards as they do.
Just Listen

Listening to a loved one voice their concerns, opinions, stressors, mistakes, and accomplishments can help improve your bond. Welcome in all their emotions, and validate their feelings. But… don’t feel the need to give your input. The act of simply listening is a gift unto itself.
Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Laura Markham, finds it important to listen and empathize with your loved ones, especially your children.
“The habit of seeing things from your child’s perspective will ensure that you treat [them] with respect and look for win/win solutions,” Markham said in an article for Psychology Today. “It will help you see the reasons for behavior that would otherwise drive you crazy. ”
Listen, be receptive to needs and open to adjustments. These things alone can transform your relationships and, of course, show your love.
How to Show Your Family Love — Sources
15 Ways You Can Show Your Kids You Love Them — Every Day
3 Steps to Improve the Relationships in Your Family Circle
15 Ways to Show Your Family You Love Them
KidsHealth: Your Child’s Self-Esteem
10 Habits to Strengthen a Parent-Child Relationship