As a parent, you’ve probably covered all the bases for your child’s education. Stimulating curriculum? Check. Engaging after-school activities? Check. But what about your child’s emotional intelligence, or “EQ”? And what is emotional intelligence?
A Psychology Today article called “The Three Types of Intelligence You Need for Success” lists these three qualities as essential:
- IQ, which measures academic intelligence
- Social intelligence, an understanding of how to react in relationships and social situations
- EQ, emotional intelligence
Never heard of EQ? Here’s a primer to set your child on the path to self-awareness, empathy and success.
Is EQ the Same as IQ?
There’s no known correlation between IQ and emotional intelligence. People with a high IQ do not always have effective social skills, which can impact their ability to be successful in a work environment.
EQ can’t be predicted in the same way as IQ. Jay Shanker, Clinical Associate with the Markham Psychologists Clinic in Markham Ontario, says “Intelligence is your ability to learn, – it remains the same throughout your lifetime. Emotional intelligence is more fluid; these are skills that can be improved over time with work.”
What Is EQ?
EQ measures emotional intelligence – a person’s ability to interact socially with others. According to a 2014 article by Forbes magazine, emotional intelligence is made up of four core skills that pair up under two primary pillars: personal competence and social competence.
Personal competence is made up of self-awareness and self-management skills, which focus more on you individually than on your interactions with other people. In other words, personal competence is being aware of your own emotions and managing your own behavior.
- Self-Awareness means knowing your internal state (i.e., accurately perceiving your emotions and being aware of them.)
- Self-Management means managing your internal state (i.e., staying flexible and positively directing your behavior.)
Social competence is made up of social awareness and relationship management skills. Social competence is your ability to understand other people’s moods, behavior and motives, which in turn impacts how effectively you respond.
- Social Awareness is your ability to accurately identify the emotions of other people.
- Relationship Management is your ability to use the awareness of both your emotions and those of others to effectively manage interactions.
Why Is EQ Important?
EQ impacts almost everything you do and say. TalentSmart tested 33 important workplace skills, including emotional intelligence, and found EQ is the strongest predictor of performance. Furthermore, the study found that 90% of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence. Conclusively, people with a strong EQ make good leaders and managers, and are better at working collaboratively in team environments.
Success, both professional and personal, depends on laying a proper EQ foundation early on in a child’s development. That’s the premise for a BI-TO EQ Camp in East China’s Jiangsu Province, which provides EQ training courses for parents and children under the age of three. While EQ training at such a young age remains controversial, evidence shows there’s inherent value in introducing basic EQ principles to lay the foundation for future success.
According to TalentSmart, if we foster EQ skills in children, we set them up to be strong communicators who can develop positive relationships and negotiate hurdles, both in their lives and careers. Check out Parentology‘s 4-step guide on teaching kids about emotional intelligence.
What Is Emotional Intelligence — Sources
Jay Shanker, Clinical Associate with the Markham Psychologists Clinic in Markham Ontario
Psychology Today: The Three Types of Intelligence You Need for Success
Forbes: Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goldman: How Emotionally Intelligent are You?
HuffPost: Why You Need Emotional Intelligence to Succeed
Forbes: Intelligence if Overrated. What You Really Need to Succeed
Global Times: Parents Enrolling Kids in EQ Classes for Headstart in Life