Many parents experience guilt and the feeling that they are not enough for their kids. Societal expectations can lead to extra pressure on mothers especially to always be “put together” when it comes to parenting.
In reality, every parent is human, with struggles and shortcomings of their own. Becoming a parent might actually accentuate those things at time! Lack of sleep, less time alone, and more responsibility are a lot to handle for even the most balanced and calm person.
If you are experiencing Mom/Parent guilt, it can be easy to feel alone in your struggle. Remember that the fact you are even worrying about being a good parent means you are putting real thought and effort into parenting your children well!
For the times when you need a reminder that you are doing great, here are some affirmations you can remind yourself of.
I am enough.
Many moms and parents express the feeling that they just can’t be enough for everyone, all the time. It is important to remember that you don’t have to be! Grandparents, aunts and uncles, siblings, teachers, childcare workers, and coaches will all make unique contributions to your children’s lives as they grow. You are enough, even if you aren’t their everything!
My best might look different each day.
Whoever said that you had to always give 100% in order to be doing your best probably didn’t have toddlers that hate sleeping. Life is stressful! Kids get sick. Sleep gets missed.
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Some days, your best will look like giving 100%. Other days, your best might be giving 30%. It’s okay to slow down and rest.
My kids know I love them.
It can be easy to think that each individual mistake made as a parent will have a devastating impact on your child. However, is the overall feeling in your home one of love, care, and encouragement? All parents make mistakes, but it is the big picture that kids often remember.
I am more than a parent.
Getting lost in the day-to-day tasks of parenting is a common feeling, especially when your children are young and need constant care. Remembering that there is more to you than a snack vendor and chauffeur can help give you the perspective to get through the hard days.
My worst days do not define me.
Perhaps most importantly, remember that your worst days do not define who you are as a parent! You will have good days, bad days, and maybe even some very bad days. Give yourself some grace to move on from your worst days with resolve to do better, instead of the guilt that you’ve failed as a parent.
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If any of these affirmations resonate with you, write them down and put them where you can see them every day.
Using positive affirmations can be a great reminder to yourself of the things you already know to be true… and in the process, kick some of that pesky guilt to the curb. Don’t be afraid to say them out loud, even if you feel silly at first!
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